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by Doug Anderson
In a recent e-mail:
>when I am facing the crowd then my mouth is closed, so
can you give some tip on that matter please.
My reply:
Many people have this problem. It's called "stress".
Try these:
1. Imagine the people
naked
Nobody can intimidate you when he’s naked.
2. Try quick meditation
This is how you learn this: First, in your room, using your
CD or MP3 player, listen to some active music, jump around, sing
along for a few minutes until your heart is racing.
Stop. Turn off the music. Sit down. Put your hands on your
legs, palms upward. Close your eyes.
Imagine a beautiful, relaxing place: walking on the beach,
lying in the grass in a meadow, cuddling with a loved one, whatever.
Breathe in deeply and hold it for 10 seconds (count slowly from
1 to 10 in your mind while you hold your breath). Breathe out.
Open your eyes. Notice that your heart has stopped racing and
you are relaxed.
You can do this at the interview to relax. If someone asks
what you are doing, say, “I always find these interviews
stressful, because the result will determine my future. So in
times of stress, I have learned to quickly meditate for 10 seconds
to relax. It’s a useful technique.”
They will chalk that up as a point in your favour. Everyone
must learn how to handle stress and you just demonstrated that
you can.
3. Role play
Get together with a friend who will also be going to interviews.
Make up interview questions for him/her, as if you were the boss
and that person would work for you. Ask the other person to also
make up questions. Do this independently. Do not discuss with
the other person what his/her questions should be, the point
is to have different questions and different wording.
Sit down at a table, across from each other. Ask him/her the
questions you have written down. Do this seriously, not as a
joke. See how he/she reacts to your questions. Do not criticise
or prompt the other person, this is a serious interview. Play
the role of the interviewer.
At the end, discuss the interview with the other person.
Then switch roles: you be the applicant, the other person
is the interviewer. Do it all again.
This role playing prepares you for the real thing. If you
were unhappy with this role playing, discuss with the other person
how to fix the problem and do it again. Change the questions,
or switch the questions to make it a little different.
After you have done this once or twice, you will be better
prepared for the real thing.
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Hopefully these will help you,
Doug |
